For some, the idea of backdoor play is quite taboo, but the truth is that year after year, anal sex is at the top of the list of the ‘fetish/kinky’ bucket list for heterosexual couples (according to a national survey, growing about 50% per decade). The problem is that there are so many misconceptions about backdoor play that it can be intimidating. So our job was to create a fantasy that not only explained why they are misconceptions in the first place, but provided a way to navigate them.
Misconception 1 – it hurts.
A lot of things in life worth doing come with pain. Relationships, skydiving, childbirth, tattoos. Plus, anything hurts if you don’t prepare. No one engages in a strenuous physical activity without training or warm up.
As with all of our boxes, our job is to facilitate this process by giving you the tools to make any discomfort as short term as possible. From the slow progression of warming up, to the breathing tricks, there is a method to the madness. And it works.
There is a reason it went poorly when you tried it the first time – the “just stick it in” method is for reserved for microwaves.
Misconception 2 – The ‘ick’ factor.
There are plenty of articles out there on the biology/physiology aspect of this, and we at The Fantasy Box are NOT physicians so while we won’t play doctor, we will simply say this. Technology has blessed us with an amazing cleaning tool that we include in all boxes. It takes the ‘ick’ factor OUT of the equation completely. We assure you, it is MUCH easier to relax when that is one less variable you need to worry about.
Misconception 3 – “The pleasure is all mine”
There aren’t technically any “sexual organs” in that area, but there are thousands of very sensitive nerve endings. Many women believe this practice is more of a one-sided concession, but quite the contrary.
Between getting warmed up in other ways, using our methods and tools, going nice and slow, and then adding additional stimulation (like clitoral), you’d be surprised how many women find backdoor play to be incredibly pleasurable and even orgasmic. If you don’t believe us, read up on it online.
Misconception 4 – I have heard…
Social acceptance – scmocial acceptance – what you do in your own bedroom is between you and your partner. If this is something you want to try, try it. If not, you have good reasons as to why. So NO judgement.
I think it was best said by Cosmopolitan writer Anna Breslaw. Paraphrased – “if you’re in a mutually caring, healthy relationship, maybe you’ll want to do it for your partner, but there’s a big difference between ‘I don’t necessarily fantasize about it’ (AS) and ‘I would rather die than do this but I guess I can suffer through it because he’s been pressuring me’.”
First rule of anal sex fight club. You DO NOT have to have anal sex.
But if it is something you have been wanting to try, click here. It’s your lucky day.